Saturday, September 22, 2012

Wrong Choices = Hard Week

Been a tough one for Madi this week.  She hasn't made the best of choices and is living out the result of those decisions.  I'll keep it in a nutshell and let her explain the rest.  Would be interesting to see if she'd play the blame game or fess up to what happened this week as she's been working very hard to

1.  Chose to play a game of tag with two friends in my room while I had a 20 minute meeting.  Was told they would be sitting and talking, but they chose to chase instead.

2.  Chose to play on her iPod at night for three nights in a row.  We have a no ipod on school nights rule from Monday thru Thursday so that she can focus on school work and after-school activities instead.  She chose to play on it.  The third night she did it, I went on Facebook and saw her activity on it.  We took a screen shot so we could show her.

3.  In the morning, I asked her if she wanted the good news first or the bad news. Good news was that she was going to get to go to her friend Elizabeth's house for a playdate after school.  Then I asked "Have you been on your iPod?"  She lied and said "No."  I asked her if she cared to revise her statement.  She shook her head no.  Then I told her that I had a screen shot of the activity from her iPod and asked her again if she had been on her iPod.  She fessed up to going on it, but didn't see anything wrong with it.  She knew it was wrong, but didn't care that she'd been on it.  This was Wednesday.  Still have not had an apology from her or any sign that she regrets having been caught or having done it.  Consequence:  no ipod or computer time unless to talk to Monica or school related until further notice.  We don't deal with lying or blatant disobedience.  And she doesn't tolerate small consequences well as she just overrides them the best she can.

4.  This morning she was talking to Monica and chose to then text Mason to talk to him.  As all texts also report to our phones, we knew right away.  She didn't apologize for doing it and didn't feel bad for it.  She, again, chose to blatantly disrespect the consequence of her previous action.  As a result, her iPod is wiped clean of everything except Facetime as she has proven not to be trustworthy in her character.

5.  Started a club with two friends.  They started inviting more students into the club only to feel that there were too many kids in the club.  Something happened between her and one of the other girls so Madi quit the club.  She and the other girls are now at odds.  Then she started a new club with a few other students.  She has a notebook she is keeping rules and consequences in for the actions of the club.  The rules are unbelievably terrible and rude.  Leaves students out and definitely draws the line between those in the club and those not.  We talked with her about how she is asking to be alienated and left by herself because she is pitting friends against friends.  We told her that she will not be allowed to participate in any clubs and if we hear of talk about it, there will be consequences.  That her goal should be to include people not exclude them and she is asking to be isolated and without friends in her actions.

We had a talk last night and Jeremy talked today to her about her actions.  And where she will end up down the road if she can't have respect, character, and obedience in her life.  We talked about how she needs to work on having good character and integrity even if noone is watching her.  And being the right kind of person and friend.  She has a tough outer shell and I know she is hearing what we are saying.  She does not act as though she cares and she does not respond as someone who cares.  It is really trying.


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